Jürg Frick, Prof. Dr. phil., psychologist FSP; individual psychological consultant SGIPA, teacher training and teaching activity, since 1991 in the training and further education of teachers, from 2002 to 2016 lecturer and consultant at the PH Zurich. Today he works as a freelance trainer at various universities and schools and as a psychological consultant in his own practice. Main areas of work: Health and Salutogenese, Burnout and Burnout Prevention, Resilience and Resilience Promotion, Encouragement, Sibling Relationships, Conducting Parent Talks, Pampering, Binding and Relationship Competence. Author of various books and professional articles, among others: Staying healthy in the teaching profession. A Resource Oriented Handbook (2015); I Like You - You Annoy Me Siblings and Their Importance for Life. 4. A. (2015); The power of encouragement. 3. A. (2019); The drug indulgence. 5. A. (2018); What drives and moves us (2011); Resilience and self-development (2009); Effects and dynamics of sibling issues in school classes and the teaching team (2015); How can school leaders contribute to the health of their staff? (2018); Resilience and Salutogenese in the teaching profession (2019).
I like you - you annoy me! Brothers and sisters and their significance over a lifetime
Sibling relationships, like parent-child relationships as primary relationships (and bonds!), are of great importance for personality development, although this fact is still overlooked or neglected - even in specialist circles. The meaning of sibling relationships is manifold: identity and self-development, learning of various basic horizontal relationship patterns, socialisation and individuation processes, identification and demarcation, projection surfaces, loyalty, encouragement, support and empathy or mirror of one's own behaviour.
Although sibling rank positions reveal tendencies in certain behavioral and experiential patterns as elders, youngest, etc., the effect is strongly dependent on the subjective individual perception of the sibling concerned as well as on other factors.
The effects of unresolved sibling relationships in the form of transmissions, conflicts and new stagings are frequent. For counselling or therapeutic work (individual work with children, adolescents, adults, family counselling) it is central to always carry out an individual analysis of the family situation (all relationships, systems and subsystems) and in particular the personal subjective patterns of perception of those affected.